When I think of a difficult family transition after a child gets married, I think of the crazy over-involved mother in law or torturing siblings or the negative-awful new mate. Not a healthy,positive, and mostly functional family who loves each other and wants the best for one another–a family who is thrilled that one of them is getting married, and loves the new addition.
No one warns you that this could be one of the hardest transitions of all. Marriage not only means a new person in the family, but for us, it has meant figuring out how your best friends, your brother and sister, are still your best friends, but now there is a bestest friend. Someone closer. This new person is a good thing. Every one would say that. But what does that mean for the people who were there all along, and will continue to be there all along. And do this when we are all growing and changing- becoming new and different people.
Caleb and I have been married for 2 years come June. We love our families and both of our families love the newbie we have brought into the bunch. But the kinks are still being worked out. We are becoming a new family as every one becomes adults, and I know the Cramer Clan is only beginning the transition of adding a few more gems to the bunch. It’s a bittersweet sort of thing. More sweet, but still a healthy dose of bitter. But it’s from places like these, the bittersweet ones, that great things come– stronger and more grace-filled relationships and people.